Just imagine if Jeff Bridges’ Lebowski character had had a younger brother who lived on an organic farm in Long Island, and you will have a rough idea of the premise of Jesse and Evgenia Peretz’s new film, Our Idiot Brother. Like Lebowski, this film is about a lovable hippie who can’t seem to steer clear of “normal” people, and so must share the heartache of their perpetual scheming. Paul Rudd, who plays the title character, Ned, must have taken some inspiration from Bridges’ Lebowski; his hair, clothing and even manner of speech are eerily reminiscent (the faint echo of Bridges’ whining “hey man” can often be heard in Rudd’s delivery).
Our Idiot Brother also pays homage to Lebowksi in its critique of the way our society expects adults to behave. That sounds heavy, but it may be worth partaking in the film’s contemplation about the human need for social exploitation, and whether we’d all be better off putting that need to rest. The film’s suggestion is that we all want things from each other, and so our lives flatten into a maddening and loveless pursuit, little of which leads to the happiness we were hoping for. Ned, by contrast, is content with what he has: a simple life, a humble wardrobe, and a faithful canine companion, none-too-allegorically named “Willie Nelson.”
When Ned falls into trouble after a cop tricks him into a silly drug deal, he loses Willie Nelson, gets thrown in jail, and finds himself — unenviably — with nowhere to turn except for his family. Initially, we think it will be a pain for his sisters to have to keep him afloat, but we soon sense that the pain will be all Ned’s for having to find a way to coexist with such restlessly egocentric beings.
Ned’s family tour begins with Liz (Emily Mortimer), the most laid-back of the sisters and perhaps the most like Ned. She lives with her husband, a feisty British filmmaker named Dylan (Steve Coogan) in a comfortable Brooklyn townhouse. Liz and Dylan are not the obnoxious sort, but their dogmatically liberal parenting style — shunning even the slightest hint of rowdiness in their sheltered male child — is a bore to both Ned and us. Liz and Dylan are also muddling through a marriage that has become sexless, for Liz at least; after accidentally witnessing Dylan’s infidelity, Ned turns informant, further escalating tensions in the household. It is not long before Ned and Dylan find themselves at odds and Ned is forced out.
The next sister stop for Ned is Natalie (Zooey Deschanel), a sultry lower-Manhattanite with a sexual appetite as mercurial as it is voracious. She is unable to offer Ned much in the way of lodging, however, so he continues his journey uptown to his sister Miranda’s place. Miranda (Elizabeth Banks) is the ambitious career woman of the bunch — finely dressed, well groomed, and desperately clawing her way up through the ranks of her publishing company as she works her first big story. That story is about a woman who was raped by her husband and subsequently founded a support group for battered women. As Miranda pursues this subject for the details of her story, the concentric rings of exploitation become glaringly visible. To what extent, the filmmakers ask, is it justifiable to capitalize on other people’s pain in the pursuit of doing something good? Meanwhile, Miranda carries on an ill-defined relationship with her neighbor, Jeremy, who in her mind exists solely to help with her sudden home-decorating urges. It is not until Ned steps in, once again accidentally, that Miranda reluctantly acknowledges that she may have feelings for Jeremy.
What Ned discovers about his sisters is that they are all unhappy people, undone by ideology, promiscuity and ambition in respective order. In turn, they each find that they have much to learn from Ned: if they could only try to take less and give more, they might be better off. Though Ned is hardly a short-tempered fellow, he does finally explode when, in an evening at their mother’s house, the sisters cannot hold back their contempt for family time — a disappointing trait which Ned lacks, and which his sisters must have acquired through the soul-sucking process of becoming “functional” adults. Ironically, Ned’s only kindred soul in the film (besides Willie Nelson) is his mother, a loving woman who supports and encourages him, serving as a reminder that our parents are sometimes to thank for how we turn out, society be damned.
Whoever said that fortune smiles on the bold left out the part about how society frowns on the dreamers. All Lebowski wanted was his rug back, and Ned just wants his dog back, but like so many things in adult life, it is never that simple.